a flinG to REMEMber

"Sometimes, It’s better to leave things as it is..."

"Veena do you like to meet Roshan" even before saying hello her friend Payal shouted through phone. Veena lives in Bangalore and she was going to Bombay for a four-day work trip. Payal her best friend wanted her to go for a date because she thinks Veena's life is dry. Roshan is Payal's college Senior whom she accidentally bumped into. Veena was initially hesitated to meet him but finally agreed. A joyful Payal gave Roshan Veena's number and asked him to Whats App her and informed her the day of her arrival.

Veena arrived in Bombay, even though she hesitated to meet Roshan deep inside she was happy about it. As the day progressed she got engrossed in work but whenever she got a WhatsApp text she thought it was Roshan. Finally, around three pm she got a ping from an unknown number.

Number: Hello Veena

Veena: Hello…who is it?

Number: Its Roshan…

Payal’s friend.

Veena: Oh hello, Yea Payal told about you

Roshan: Yea Cool, how is it going?

Veena: All good you tell me.

Roshan: Where you stay?

Veena: Andheri West

Roshan: Where you work?

Veena: Near Saki Naka Metro Station.

Roshan: Possible to meet today because am going Delhi and coming back on Tuesday and Payal told that you will be leaving then.

Veena: yea it should be OK. Is 6.30 OK for you.

Roshan: Yes, it’s perfect.

Veena: See you then.

Roshan: See you..

Roshan: Shall we call it a Date

Veena: Let's see..lol

Roshan: See you

She was excited about it...

As time was  Veena’s heart was beating and she was eager to meet him. She felt that she shouldn’t have said yes but anyhow she thought it’s a different city and there is no harm in meeting a common friend for Coffee. She informed Payal about it and she was super happy. Finally, it was 6 and time for her to leave. She got up and went to loo retouched herself and came to her cubicle took her bag and walked towards Saki Naga station. She reached and texted Roshan saying she is there and immediately she got a call from Roshan, he asked her to come near the exit. She walked towards the exit, her heart was thumping fast…With lot of excitement and nervousness she walked towards the exit talking to him and saw him there turned a guy in a grey shirt and black formal pants. He turned andsmiled at her and she smiled back...he said "Hello i am Roshan..."

.As Ellie Goulding  song says "Anything could happen"

She gave a shy smile and politely said hello. Roshan suggested a cafe near to the metro to have a chat which she nodded too. They walked to the cafe having a normal talk about the day and stuff. Ordering two cappuccino they sat at the cafe and engaged into conversations, the topics varied from work to movies to music to Bombay etc. Time went so fast  that they didn't notice it, Roshan had a flight to catch but he promised to come a day early to take her around Bombay. They got up paid the bill and went separately with a promise of meeting again.They were so happy for the memorable evening they had. Through the night Roshan continuously kept messaging her and was updating about his flight status. Just as The corrs song says  go on leave me breathless...

They were in touch, Roshan was still not confirmed about coming on Monday. Even though Veena wished he came but felt its better he didn't. Sunday night she gets a text a saying that he is coming Monday morning and be prepared to see Bombay. Veena wasn't able to sleep Sunday night, she kept on texting him back and froth and in that process she felt asleep. Finally it was Monday morning she woke up and wore a comfortable dress and went to meet him at the metro station the same one where they met the first time. As time was going she had butterflies in her stomach seeing him and what his thoughts will be?. Soon he came and they were on way to see Bombay. They took a connecting train and reached CST station. It was her first visit to Bombay and she was so excited to see the famous railway station which comes in movies.

They had an amazing day, they went to the Fashion street to Gateway of India to Colaba, she was so emotional to see the places where the 11/2008 attack happened especially the Leopold cafe. They saw the Taj Hotel, had a coffee at Starbucks there. They walked around, talked a lot, laughed and even sang some songs. The day was filled with happiness for Veena she never expected this to happen. Finally it was evening and he took her to the marine drive where they sat down had tea and watched the sun set. Veena declared to Roshan that this was her best day she ever had in her life and thanked him for the memories. All Roshan said was it was "my Pleasure". Veena felt that she said things too soon.

After that wonderful evening they left for their respective home. Veena wished it never ended and was continuously thinking about it., but she knew it was not good to expect too much because today they had a happy and memorable day but in future even if there was a relationship it wont be necessary that it will be a happy situation. While she was surrounded with these thoughts she gets a call from roshan saying how happy he was. They both never talked about any future plans. They were happy with that one day what they had. It gave them a memory for lifetime.

Sometimes we all have those kind of flings but the time we start expecting a future from it we spoil the entire memories associated with it. Its better to leave things the way they are, especially if it has beautiful memories. For Veena she believes this was her best day till now and she will never forget it. Like the ABBA song says " Our last Summer"...

We dont know what is in hold for a relationship in future but lets not spoil the memories we had by expecting or overthinking the future of it. 

Even though they met in the city of Dreams they didn't want to dream about a future together all they wanted was to leave it as "A beautiful affair to remember" XOXO...

GuiltY AffairS

"THAT MOMENT... WHEN MY LIFE BECAME A LIE"

"Wait…I heard a sound…"a panicked Pauline ran and peeped through her drapes to see if peter came home. She was relieved it was not his car. She went back to her bed. After 10 minutes, she again heard a car pulling up and she ran down to see if its peter but again it was someone else. Pauline went back to the Guest bed room and saw Richard dressing up. Richard asked “why you worried? Isn’t he out for long?” Pauline replied "it’s easy for you Richard to say it, am the one who is feeling guilty". Yes Pauline was having an extra martial affair behind her husband peter with his friend Richard and every night she repent over it, cry to sleep thinking about it. Its been eight months since she started an affair and she isn't able to see peter they way she use to see him before. It kills her of the thought that she is cheating her husband of five years. As the George Michael song says "I'm never gonna dance again the way i danced with you"

Peter and Pauline were happily married they were college sweet hearts. Richard is Peter's office colleague. Peter is a hardworking man and someone who gives importance to family life. He is working extra hours for their son Christopher and daughter christy. Pauline was a home maker and she loved it. She liked the idea raising kids and being with them. Things took a turn when the kids started going to school where she became merely to a lonely housewife and she didn't have much to do. That's when the affair started, something which she started to spice up her life turned out to be the biggest guilty pleasure for her. It was time she decided to confront Richard about it. She wanted to know if they can move in together because she cant cheat Peter anymore.

Richard was happily married and rejected Pauline's idea immediately. He said it was just fun for him and she should also look it as the same. Pauline was devastated but somewhere she knew she did it not because she loved Richard but out of love for peter. She thought about it and she decided the best way to sort is to come clean about it with Peter and what worst could happen either he will leave her or he will go in for a divorce but she was ready to face it but she was sure she had to do it. Just then she heard the honking of car. Peter came in and asked about the kids she said they are asleep. They sat down for supper Pauline waited for the supper to get over. Slowly she said "Pete i need to tell you something" Pete looking at her said " Say dear". She took the courage and said "Pete please dont hate me for this but i have to tell you this". Peter became more alert and he knew its something serious. Then with all braveness she said "I am sorry I been cheating on you for last 8 months". A shattered and confused peter took couple of seconds to grasp the intensity of it. Without saying a word he got up and went for front door , took his coat got his car keys and drove away. As Rihanna song says She was UNFAITHFUL to him...

Pauline stood there crying and watched him driving away. She went back and sat on the couch thinking about it. She understood no amount of adventure, spice or anything was worth her love for family, her love for her kids and especially her love for peter. She felt it was the right thing to tell peter about it because its the correct thing to do. Pauline didn't care about forgiveness from peter but that he deserved to know the truth.Peter may take his own time to accept it and he may forgive Pauline only time will tell it.

Relationships are something we take for granted. The more busy they get we think they dont love us but in truth they are providing for the future. When we cheat on our partners we forget all those great moments we had with them and spoil them for ever. For some its a solace but they forget to understand no one else can give you happiness apart from you. We are humans and we do have emotions but we need to value the pros and cons of going behind those emotions. Is it worth to go behind it and destroy the existing happiness. Do we have any guarantee the happiness we had for a day will remain the same forever. Its all a myth which is in movies where the hero and heroine find real love and live happily forever.

We shouldn't be a fool enough to give away what we have, for a day of Lust and Happiness. Also its really wrong to have an affair behind your partner's back. You need to come clean about it with your partner because that's the best way to say sorry to them and more importantly respecting them and let's not expect our partner will forgive. Let them take their own time. 

Today Pauline is still waiting for Peter to come back. Its really tough for them to built a relationship again and it wont be the same. Now all she worries is about is peter going to forgive her and most of all "WAS IT WORTH IT..." As the Prince Song Says. I never meant to cause you any pain or sorrow...

 

Yes it's one question we also need to ask our self"...IS IT WORTH..."

Yes we all have those moments, but hold yourself because it may have Catastrophic effect..XOXO

“the UnSpOkEn”

“Sometimes words tear you down!...”

Screaming on top of her voice…Sara said “for the last time John I don’t know where is your cream color tie…John wasn’t angry, he calmly asked her. "Why you always shout Sara?" She said “John I have a million things to do before I go for work. You are never organised.”  John replied but “I love you”. Sara was furious she slammed the door and said, “GO TO HELL JOHN” and left for work. In office, she wasn’t concentrating. It wasn’t that she never loved John or he was not organized, it was just that stupid morning she had bit mood swings. Sara took a hot cup of coffee and started talking to Mary who was her close friend and confidante who was in the next cubicle. Softly she told “Mary I feel bad”. Mary turned and asked her for “what” …then she explained about the fight she had with John. Mary said “its OK, it’s just a matter of sorry. Just call him and say sorry”. That’s when Sara realized she hasn’t taken the phone. She decided to say sorry when she meets him in the evening. As the day progressed Sara was busy with work. She waved bye bye to Mary and went home to meet john. She got some flowers and chocolates too. Around 1800 hours she reached home and was waiting for John to come so she can hug him and say “ I love you too”.

As she was waiting she dozed off on the couch. When she woke up it was around 2045 hours. She was wondering why john is getting delayed and why hasn’t he called. That’s when she remembered about the phone. When she took it to dial John she found 30 Missed calls. It was from Michael John’s Close friend and few from John. Worried, panicked and confused Sara called him immediately. The call was attended by Michael’s wife Christina. She said, “Sara we were trying to reach you from evening”. John is admitted in the hospital, Nothing serious though. She took the car and was driving crazy to reach St. Bernard’s Hospital as fast as she can. All memories were flashing through her mind...Like the time he use to sing Starship song "SARA" to her...

She reached the Hospital Emergency ward and found Michael and Christina standing out.  Sara was crying badly…Christina was comforting her saying “Nothing to worry”. All she wanted was to see John and say, “Sorry and Love you”. Just then the doctor came and said a closest relative can go inside. Sara grabbed the opportunity, with all courage she went inside. John was in life support and covered with blood and Bandages. It was way too difficult to see once a very happy man, in that stage. With a broken voice, she said “John I am sorry and I love you. Don’t leave me. Please come back”.  As The Fray Song says she found him late...

That’s the last time Sara saw John alive. He passed away that night. Even though Sara told him John that she was sorry and she loved him the most. She wasn’t sure that he heard it. She had a million good things to say about John, a thousand times when she wanted to thank him, a thousand times when she wanted to say 'man you are wonderful and I love you', she never said that and she never will. She lost the opportunity forever. She cursed herself for that. But no matter what john won’t hear her anymore and its forever. We all have had our “Sara moments” where things are said out of anger and ego, but do we ever think will that be the last spoken words of ours to them. The inappropriate words we said to them will haunt for us for rest of our life.

There are moments in our life we do get angry on our dear and near ones. We know that it’s not a big issue. These things are bound to happen in any sort of relationship. But it is not bigger than our love for the person.  It’s tough to control our emotions but we need to control it. We don’t want to have those times when words can’t be taken back. Once we say things out of  bad mood, jealousy, EGO and out of anger, Just try to apologies immediately. There is nothing to lose when we say sorry. It just shows that we love and respect that person. EGO and ANGRY can only make our life miserable.

When we are forgiving a person, even if he doesn’t say sorry it doesn’t mean we are small. It shows we have a big heart and we value the person more than our ego. We are Humans and tend to have emotions running out in many forms. There could be many times we must have lost of our friends and family just because of our unwanted and pointless EGO. But as time passes we realize that It was a stupid thing to do.  We are missing those times which could have been of happiness, laughter and memories, those times which won’t be there. Let’s choose words carefully and wisely. Let’s make sure our EGO doesn’t take the power. Our cursing words shouldn’t what anyone should hear for the last time.

Today the most haunted time for Sara will be the time that dreadful morning where she was angry to John. The words which she said to him will Haunt her for rest of her life. All she could wish now was to go back in time and change it as the CHER Song says.

                 

"Death is something we can’t stop. But words can be"…lets focus on having the last words of love to our near and dear ones whom we love unconditionally, because we don’t know what is in store for them or for us. Let the "UNSPOKEN BE SPOKEN, LET LOVE AND ONLY LOVE REMAIN”.Remember the moment, word and time cant be retrieved,

We all deserve a lovely ending. XOXO

“The Ugly Love”

YoU LovE mE thEn dOn’t LeavE mE

Sometimes we feel bored and all we need is some project. So, my project was meddling with my friend Sameera’s life. Let me introduce Sameera to you, Sameera is a very fun loving, ambitious and workaholic but she was a sucker for love and relationships. After her last break up she swears that she won’t be in love or relationship again.   Of course, she being my friend I always curse the guy who ditched her and decided to take life into my hands. That’s when I met Shawn the Pharmacist who moved near my home. Shawn was typical Indian, Kerala boy who had a decent haircut and goes church every Sunday.  After having few talks with him I thought he is perfect for Sameera.

So, I asked Sameera to meet me for a coffee to tell about Shawn. Sameera wasn’t excited as she had a messed up break up with Nitin and wanted to stay single or be a nun. I asked her when did Monastery became a hiding spot for all victims in love failures. “Cheer up and let’s restart”. Sameera and Shawn exchanged no’s and started to Whats App daily. Shawn was a reserved guy who doesn’t open up.  Sameera liked that quality in him and was also attracted by his simple lifestyle. All Sameera was telling as the ABBA song “YES oh Yes i want to know 'the Name of the Game'”.

We three use to hang out a lot and over the months Sameera gradually found him interesting and was in love. After 6 months of dating they decided to make things official. It was a happy and jealous moment for all of us. Let’s be honest it’s not easy to find the right person, let alone have a relationship. It was great for all of us. As usual the initial months it was all about them. They forgot that they had friends and family. As time, progressed Sameera started to be dominant in the relationship. She was the final Answer to all decision making. Shawn being the simple guy he was too happy being part of her life. Soon she was walking all over him, even deciding his likes, whom to talk and where to go. Shawn became a puppet to her. Her point was showing others “how perfect her love was?  “What a wonderful life she is having?” and makes others jealous of her life. Shawn started to feel bit out of place and for first time he felt that he was not in that relationship and maybe he was a rebound guy for her. The melting point reached when Sameera asked him to cut out his old friends especially his emotional support friend Pallavi because she doubted them.

Sameera decisions were made from her ambitions and dreams. She forgot that they both are Individuals and have different aims in life. Even though Shawn was part of her life decisions but she chooses to ignore Shawn’s life goals and dreams.  She decided to move to India to work for a NGO without even discussing with Shawn. He was surprised but didn’t say a word. She was hoping to work in India for 6 months and return to Dubai. Not even once she discussed it with Shawn. When time came she left. India was different experience for her. She was struggling with her new life. But then came a WhatsApp Message...“I am tired of this relationship and I need a break.” 

Shawn wanted to break up. Sameera couldn’t understand the Intensity of it. She was still on her own world thinking she was right and he will come back. But Shawn was prepared and he said it’s Over. For him his happiness matters the most and he wasn’t happy. The thing it was painful for both but Shawn was already preparing for it so it was ok for him.  Life froze for Sameera. She was devastated, confused, lonely and crying. She was not sure about the situation. She tried talking to Shawn, begged and said sorry a million times. Shawn was stubborn and he made up his mind & was clear that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with Sameera. As the ABBA song says “One of us Is crying, One of us is lying in her lonely bed staring at the ceiling wishing she was somewhere else instead”

Depressed and Lonely Sameera decided to confront Shawn on what went wrong. She booked her ticket to Dubai the very next day. The charges were high but she never cared all she wanted to save her relationship. They met at a pub and there he started to tell what went wrong and why wasn’t he happy. The points he throwed at her face was:

1)There was no we in the relationship and it was always her.

2)She forgot that he has personal choices and likings which was never considered.

3)she never gave him Space.

4)They both are unhappy in this relationship.

In brief, he was telling he never had an individuality when they were together. Sameera tried hard to convince him and give her a second chance. But he was firm, he said neither she nor he was happy in that relationship and let’s move on and be happy. That was the last drink they had together before they parted ways. As the ABBA song “when all was said and done”.

If I do the Anatomy of the relationship I never blame Sameera because she was just being her. Yes, she could have given him a little space. But I always ask Shawn why he never told Sameera the emotional turmoil he was going through. If he had raised it up then today they could have been together. I don’t understand, how easy was it for Shawn to move on after two years of being together. Was there any love or was it just an Infatuation. She was always herself, yes, she is selfish and self-centered but she was always that and he knew it when he was getting into it. Yes, there were issues which could be worked on but Sameera deserved a second chance. If you really love someone, you never leave them it’s as simple as that. No one and nothing is perfect in this world. If we love something and if we find issues we try to sort it out rather than leaving or breaking up. Leaving up or breaking up is for people who don’t have the courage to face things. I always felt there was another reason for his exit.  Anyhow its life and unexpected things are bound happen all we have to do is say YES to it and MOVE ON.

I always blame me for this situation. If I haven’t played the cupid part. Today things would have been much different. One of those times when you hate yourself. All I can say is SORRY.

Today Sameera is still single and still struggling where Shawn has moved on and is dating a new girl.

I call it the ugly love because it hurt my friend my dear friend and she never deserved it. All she knew was to love. When did love became so mean and torturing?. All I hope and believe that time will heal her and soon she will find her new love. The one she will be the happiest. Till then she will feel like a looser as the ABBA song says, “THE WINNER TAKES IT ALL”.

As it Says "LOVE NEVER STOPS HOPING" For Sameera its that hope which keeps her going XOXO.

"BEAT SUICIDE"

"Not all have the luxury of life...Value it..."

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It was May 2014, I clearly remember because it was one month after I joined my new company in Dubai. It was a Monday morning around 8.30 my phone was continuously ringing since it was on silence I didn’t notice. When I reached office, I found 10 missed calls from my close friend Manav.  I immediately called back, without even waiting to finish the first ring he picked up and was crying. I asked Manav to stop and answer me what went wrong? He was still gasping for breath and his voice was breaking but I got a Deja vu that someone is dead…finally he found the courage and said to me Ricky committed SUICIDE, for a couple of seconds I couldn’t reply him. Finally, I said “it’s OK it happens cry as much as you want and trust he must be crying too for his stupid mistake”.  At the age of 24 Ricky Mathews did SUICIDE by consuming poison. Ricky and Manav were childhood friends and very emotionally attached. Suddenly Ricky’s life got over at his prime age. He hasn’t left any suicide note, neither anyone knows why he did it. But he is missing a lot of things, things which he hasn’t done…marriage, children, his achievements and seeing the beautiful world. His life got frozen forever but his memories are still alive. Still today Manav ask, “Why and what went wrong Ricky???”.

Today this topic came to limelight again when Karan Joseph the renowned Pianist leaped to death from 12^th floor in Mumbai. He was rich and famous and was fine till he jumped out of the window suddenly without any reason. According to survey every 40 second one person commits suicide somewhere in the world. It’s the 10^th most way of People dying and the most Interesting part is 79% of them are male. There is a death reported in every 20 suicide attempts. There are various reasons why people end their life, Depression, Family issues, Failure, Acceptance, Loneliness and some for the sake of game. The alarming fact is the highest no of suicides is among teen in the age group of 14-17. Sadly, INDIA ranks 6^th in women and 22^nd in men globally. India has different organisations state wise to help depressed and people with suicide tendency. But Sadly, nothing major is there from our Government to help people, like ONE NATIONAL HELPLINE NO to call for the entire country so the help reaches on time to the concerned person. Not just the National helpline but also assurance and awareness that they are trust worthy and secured. Awareness throughout the country and mandatory saving of National Helpline in every cell Phone.

We as society are partially responsible for some of it.  Bullying is one of the major cause of suicide among teens aged 14 to 18. We should understand that teenage is the most delicate and fragile time during our entire life. It’s the time when teens are confused with life, getting influenced with lot of ideas and trials. We tend to bully teens and call them names or mocking fun of them by pointing out there, gender, Colour or even body. LGBTQ teens are the biggest target groups here. We should understand that a life is more important than any amount of bullying we do. If you want, have fun at our own expense rather than someone. Bullying a person isn’t a joke but rather disrespectful to that Individual’s Personality.

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Family issues, Divorce among parents is also another reason for major suicides. I totally agree if two individuals who are married and decide to part ways to lead a happy life let it be. Then the first thing is to explain it to their children or rather take them for a counselling before they go ahead with it. If they aren’t happy about it give them time and take time too. Your children’s life is very important than a divorce paper. You still live your individual life and there will be a time when your children will understand it.

Break up’s is another situation where people have the tendency to end their life. Let’s face it we all are humans and break ups are disaster’s. It takes certain amount of time to get healed. But during these delicate times lets be around our friends to keep a tab on them or get diverted from the topic. Sooner or later you will move on and later you understand it was a good thing.

Depression is the mother of all causes for suicide. People get depressed for no reasons or with reasons like loneliness, failures, sickness etc. sometimes we don't even know that we are depressed but anytime we feel low let's not be ashamed to talk to someone. I suggest these guys need immediate counselling and they need to open up with their friends or a shrink. As Vivien Leigh Says in A Street Car named Desire “I’ve always depended on the kindness of strangers.” There are a lot of people who are in the same situation who help or be a comfort for each other. You can find your support there. Always keep in mind that life is too precious to lose. No Matter how much busy we are, if someone wants to talk to us always make that a priority.

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Honestly everyone has issues and nobody is perfect. Everyone act perfect in their life. What you see in social media is not what is in real. Everyone is trying hard to be in the perfect people race which was created by some unperfect person to show he is perfect. Trust me it’s all Bull.  We all live a pretentious society who wants to show other people that we are happy because we think they are happy. Everyone has issues and there should be issues so we could face them and become stronger in life. Life is gift and we shouldn’t disrespect our gift even its small or big, worth or unworthy. Let’s face it” our is life is messed up”, but there are a million things which is beautiful about it. Honestly suicide can affect your Family and friends for a Long term.

Let’s drop the pretentious life we have and be content with what we have in our life. Let’s live with our circumstances. We all are blessed with some thing or the other and let’s work on it. Let’s see dreams and try to achieve it. It may take time and we may fail a million times but trust me one day we will succeed. Take all those hatred and all those mocking words and use them as manure for your success. To everyone I must say what my friend Clifford Morris said every night before we sleep talk to GOD like a friend for 5 minutes. Say what all you feel. I tried it and it really helped me. We will never feel we are alone.

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We are strong enough to handle things on our own and come up in life. Even we have all support finally its we who decide to come out it and once you have done that, I call that the “REAL WIN”. It happens in a flip of a second and but you need to SNAP OUT OF IT.

    Life need not be Perfect, it needs to be "LIVED" XOXO

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F**k the LaBEL...tREaT aLL EquaLLY...

“SSSSHHH, I heard he is Gay, He is a Black Guy, they are Asian, Man she is a lesbian, here comes the blonde, again a white guy gets it easy, you know something he is transitioning, that guy is growing beard is he going to join ISIS, she is fluid…lady you are way huge to climb 5 stairs, we hear this a lot around us. Why is it so difficult for us to accept people as “HUMANS” rather based on color/ sexuality/Body etc. it’s like haven’t you heard something called “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS”. Do we own this world to decide and tell people how they should live their life and what is wrong? and what is right? and discriminate. Today we are seeing lot of inhumanity around us.Recently Mr.DonaldTrump is planning to end DACA which was started by Mr.Obama for young undocumented immigrants from deportation, means around 8,00,000 immigrants has to leave USA.He is forgetting we all are immigrants in this world.Someone with lot of power and money decides what others must follow. The Power person’s ideology is what we need follow…”.Excuse me don’t I have a heart and brain to decide what’s right for me…” Why should anyone decide for me rather than that the Power or the Government should protect me because am a law-abiding citizen of that country. I should be given equal rights as any other citizen in that country. Whom I should marry is not the Government concern as far its mutual and not hurting anyone. I should be given a job or a house based on my qualification and background check not based on my color or sexuality. As Black Eyed Peas song says “where is the love".

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Let’s look from the creation perspective we have concluded that there are two ways how Humans formed right, one is the God’s way which is the Popular Belief and other is the evolution, does anywhere it says that a Human created us. So why do we have the obsessive need to discriminate others and decide for others. Now from “God made Man and Woman” belief does he also give the right to us saying that now I formed you and you go rule world and you judge others, NO…He formed us and said be good, kind, care each other and repopulate the world. So basically, the power is in his hands and it means neither you or I has the right to Judge people or discriminate. We all are same in his eyes so the Judgment will be done when the time comes in God’s Court. Earth has now become a scary place where Humans are fighting for Power and once you get power act like the king and try to convey their Ideology, their thoughts, their religion and their rights into others. Is this a way to do things??? I agree we all have our own beliefs and religion and we can share that with people but to force it on them that’s not cool and not called for. The day when power decides that we all are Humans and let all law-abiding citizens have equal rights and trust me on this our planet EARTH is going to be on better Place to live and we don’t need the “ONE WAY MISSION TO MARS”.

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Now contrary to the Popular belief let’s do the anatomy for the Evolution of Humans. OK now we have a Monkey, that monkey was bending then he decides to walk straight later decided to get trimmed and cleaned and then BAM humans formed. Now did the Monkey decide yeah now I have become a big standing Monkey so let me rule this world and decide how every other monkey should live, No. Am pretty sure they weren’t thinking that all they must be thinking now I became homo sapiens so let me focus on how to survive? As time evolved so called humans started getting thirsty for power and more power they forgot once there was a time it was all about survival. Nowadays survival has a different meaning, it means if you want to survive follow the ideology of your ruler or government, if not you can’t survive in my country…” Did Humanity had a Mighty fall, YES and do we have a chance to come up, YES”.

We all here for a small period which can’t be even predicted so all we can do is to stay as Humans and be compassionate, kind and loving to our follow human beings and treat them all equal. It could be anything like keeping the lift on hold for someone who is behind you to catch the same lift, it could be providing food for needy, hugging someone who is in distress, or even just saying to someone keep going and you will be fine.” The words, the small act of kindness which we do could be a huge change to others and they will remember you and try to follow it. It’s "WE" who need to start this change rather than asking anyone to change and let’s not stop this until the world gets into a better place. Something which can be passed to our future Generation and makes us proud.  Lets "Heal the world".

There is someone out there who is trying hard to tell you, these are the spirits of those people who have died who was in power and believed that only their ideology, their religion, their thoughts and thinking’s were right and make the citizens who have trusted in them, who had faith in them follow it. All they are trying to say is that they REGRET IT and it was a SUPER MISTAKE what they have done because once you die and become dust all are equal. They are trying to stop you from doing the same mistake but it all going in vain.

Let’s all be Humans and treat everyone as one family giving them equality and not labeling them. Every life needs to be respected, we don’t own the earth and we don’t own anyone’s life because we all are TENANTS in this world. Everything is owned by the supreme power and let him Judge us when the time comes till then let there be LOVE and only LOVE.

Brainyquote.com

"OUR WORLD IS STRUGGLING WITH MAJOR ISSUES LIKE NATURAL CALAMITIES, TERRORIST ATTACKS, FAMINE, DISEASES ETC AND LET’S NOT MAKE IT MORE COMPLICATED WITH THESE KIND OF DISCRIMINATION AND INCONSEQUENTIAL ISSUES. LETS HOPE FOR BETTER DAYS…"

"START TODAY WITH A SMALL ACT OF KINDNESS TO MAKE A BETTER TOMORROW, A PEACEFUL, HAPPY AND A KIND WORLD."

I am borrowing a verse from Bible for conclusion...:)

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” XOXO

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tHe sTalKeR cAlLeD dEaTH

"My Blog wont be Grammatically correct and i was offered by friends to get it Edited and corrected before publishing but i felt its not right because i didn't want it to be Perfect."

Last Night Bangalore was shaken by the news of Ms.Gauri Lankesh’s Assassination. She was 55 and was shot by 3 unidentified men at her home which was so uncool and uncalled for no matter what, whether she has fulfilled her dreams we don’t know, is someone going to follow her dreams we don’t know that either nor we will know it but she is someone who followed her Heart. A very bold woman with very strong views on politics perhaps the reason of her death. Just like the death of any other famous person the hullabaloo will be there for a week and just like others she too will be soon forgotten. I don’t want to get into the political part of it or the feminist part of it. Now the main point of this blog is the unpredictability of Death.

It’s like Yesterday Morning Ms. Gauri Lankesh woke up, did her routine things drove to work, did her tweet on an issue, was it ever in her mind yeah that’s it today is my last day in earth or as phoebe Says in Friends “after she woke up she had regular tea, decided to have a massage little did she knew ‘God was like yeah that’s it’”. Would she be dead even if those brutal people haven’t shot her, the something what we call as destiny or it’s something which could be avoided if wanted that’s still a mystery for Humanity.

The way death approach us is like too soon even we forget to enjoy the beautiful day called “Today”. We are so super busy with our lives that we are running and running and running to earn more (which neither can’t carry or enjoy), to be famous but end up in depression little we know that a stalker called DEATH is following us and by the time we realize things it will be too late and we will be walking around in a form called Spirit or Ghost.

Now the real question is why are we running and where are we heading too???…some answers are like we are running coz we want to save for our children or save for future…but it’s like “’hello’ how do you predict your future if you can’t predict your today?” Well when we have family and responsibilities we do need money and I totally agree to it. Let’s look at the system in India…well to get a decent amount as salary one has to be around 30 plus (am talking about the non-technical guys) but what we follow like is even if the boy is earning little let him get married when the truth is what he is earning is not even for himself…now the burden of earning, doing multiple jobs and frustration enters slowly which turns into depression and finally you outgrow your prime years and soon in death bed or rather wasn’t we having a slow death. Sometimes things here are very complicated to understand and decided by societal norms like the boy should be old or rather the girl should be young, the boy should earn more and more importantly that one should get married etc…this is all some orthodox ideas which was done during medieval times.

Why can’t we simply accept the fact that lets take responsibility when you earn decently and till then let he or she fulfill certain dreams of theirs like learning some art or travelling, in other words some time for yourself so at least we will be satisfied when our time comes to leave this Planet. Well I was born I was educated by my parents and of course it’s every parent dream to see their children get married and settled and in a way, they are telling yes, we have done our part. I feel the done part is when they see their children been “happy” …and not pushing them according to their definition of the term called their “Happiness”…But this raises the question are they going to die unhappy, not seeing their children settled. I personally feel happiness or being content in life should not be chained with expectations from others. One must decide his life goals and define his happiness it could be anything …like for someone they like flowers so gardening is what gives them happiness, for some they like to take care of home like doing vacuuming, making food and taking care of the family, for some its Love and for some its career, for some its just Surviving in this world, it could be travel and like that doing movies or even it’s just not doing anything. We all are Individuals and we all are different and Unique so it doesn’t mean we all should pursue same things in life. We will have success and we have failures it’s just a natural way which gives results but at the end of the day you will never regret it because you have done that. To be honest there is no point of leaving a mark in this world after you go because you are not there to watch or enjoy it. All we can do is be a motivation to others by following your own heart and let everyone be able to do it no matter what the result is. As NIKE says, “Just Do It”.

Natalie Babbit, Tuck Everlasting

Your own happiness and life content happens when you enjoy yourself, accepting what you are, your strengths, your circumstances and being grateful for the life you have because many people don’t have the luxury what we have. for all you out there and who is reading my blog I would like request you guys to do one thing just take a moment from today and enjoy the air out there, just enjoy this beautiful day because we get very few of them and by the time we realize it will be too late.

Let me tell you one reality “He is around the corner and he is waiting for our time to be finished in this world, he won’t even give you a hint, no matter how much you beg he won’t listen when its time he will take you” and as you go up in the air along with him you look down and see how beautiful your world was KASH... you wish you gave more time for yourself to enjoy it. No matter what all we plan for future we really can’t plan our time to leave this planet.

        As the song by "Simply Red" Says "That's all i have today, It's all i have to say"

Start loving your life, do things which you want to do and enjoy each second of it ,no matter what it results in …XOXO!!!

"Thoughts and Taughts"

People's thoughts and thinkings around use to fascinate me  always...I travel to work by metro and i am surrounded with people there is this  Aunty who doesnt wear jewels but makes an Impact to you by her simple ways and style then there is kind wierd girl who dresses totally different ( really love to learn confidence from her) with big headphones...then there is this chinese girl who always stands near the door wearing gogs by now you must be thinking that i look only girls...lol then no there are these guys who wear gogs inside the metro which is super funny...and listening to music so loud to show themself as Super cool...But have we ever thought what they are thinkingmind...what are they going through...yes thats what my blog about...